I had been nice enough, willing to take a train with my baby to travel an hour’s time to ang mo kio for the sake of meeting my friend because she doesn’t want to travel too far. And when I asked if we can meet at 7 odd so that I can drive, she said it’s too late to meet and asked me to stay at home, read a book or something. She quoted “as a friend, I never offered to pick her up, and if she and her boyfriend have a car, she won’t ask for petrol money like I did”.
Anyone would be pleased with his or her own transport, a car. However, your friends and relatives are more than willing to share this car with you. Since you can afford a car on your own, so what is that wee bit of petrol is to you, probably nothing at all. Others probably don’t know each full tank I pumped cost me approximately $90 now, compared to $60 two years ago.
The car has really been helpful for the past 2 years, whether it is to give a lift or to ferry people around, we have done it all. But today, I heard from this friend that I did not offer to ferry her to and fro her home because I have a car. I seemed to be obliged to her that I, as a friend should do that. I stayed in the east, she in the north, it’s not like it is on the way to do that unless I am meeting her near her home.
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Friend: You angry with me ar?
Me: No. Just upset with myself.
Friend: I guess I said something wrong sorry. Come let’s have coffee? If you still want.
Me: Never mind. It’s raining. It’s late. It’s far. It’s costly. I am troublesome.
Friend: Meet you 7.20 @ amk luh
Me: Don’t bother to pacify me luh. Another day perhaps, we meet at 4 pm next day. I agree with you 7+ is too late, can’t do much.
Friend: Can shop abit and coffee luh. Mmm weekday you can 4 pm meh. And I am not pacifying you x.x I wanted to go out too just that thinking of the name cards like kind of waste since I am in the area but can’t take ya
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Friend: OII confirm not coming out huh!
Me: No.
Friend: at least reply just now luh I was waiting zzz
Friend: I feel really stupid to try to be kind to you, forget it. Stupidly trying to cheer u up and you seem indifferent. Ya I am damn stupid and you’re treating me like a fool. I won’t be doing this anymore bye.
Me: You persuaded me to stay at home and now you are saying this. Stay at home read a book or something, cheapest way.
Friend: Whatever. I don’t wanna be treated like a fool anymore k. It’s no point being nice to people. Bye.
Me: So only you are being nice? I am only a stingy friend who you think I am.
Friend: Ya I am not nice friend. You can go think whatever you like. No more sacrifices for you.
Me: I am willing to get my baby travel an hour for the sake of meeting my buddy because she doesn’t want to go too far. And this is all I get. She say it’s too late to meet at 7+ ask me to stay at home and now turn the table around and say she is being nice for nothing.
Friend: Ya right, please. You didn't intend to come out early anyway so don’t bother saying one hour of traveling. You insisted on driving. Too lazy to explain, forget it.
Friend: By the way I ask you to stay home cause you complained about money, what else an I say anyway. I explained to you about late did you bother to listen? And I did apologized and explain to you about the name cards but come on, you don’t give a damn. And it made me feel stupid. Well you are the nice friend and I am not, enough said.
Me: Didn’t I suggest meeting tomorrow early at 4 so that you can collect your cards, you didn’t bother to listen what I said too.
Friend: You said perhaps, and please respond, its rude to keep people waiting for your reply. At least confirm not meeting, thanks. Too lazy to say anymore bye.
Me: I already said its too late to meet at 7, you just didn’t got the message.
Friend: Can never get my point in your head. And glad you know its late, next time think properly first. First of all you demand that time, I refuse. Now that I give in you give attitude. Tsk.
Me: You said it’s late, so I am merely obliging you, to change to another day. Then you accuse me of being indifferent.
Friend: Okay. Anything else?
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please dont twist your story. i dont ever remember that i demanded fer you to fetch me home. and knowing your financial status i have always offered petrol money if i wanted a lift from you. by the way, you didnt mention taking mrt, you said you didnt want to because its a long journey. thank you.
Yes you didn't demand, you merely complained that as a FRIEND, I didn't EVEN offered you a ride.
"And when I asked if we can meet at 7 odd so that I can drive, she said it’s too late to meet and asked me to stay at home, read a book or something."
you know very well it was nothing like this. but if you wanna twist the story with my response to that...shrugs.
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"But today, I heard from this friend that I did not offer to ferry her to and fro her home because I have a car. I seemed to be obliged to her that I, as a friend should do that. I stayed in the east, she in the north"
with this, and in response to your comment, am disappointed bout the way you penned bout me. i had never asked fer a FREE lift home apart from the times am going back east. if i ever did ask fer a lift elsewhere, i offered the petrol money. i wouldnt have done so if am COMPLAINING that you are OBLIGED TO. you know it very well too that i have never expect fer you to send me back north if your going back east, in consideration of time, distance, not only the money.
thank you.
friends for so long... simmer down and talk nicely bah...
miscommunication perhaps...
Now its not about whether I am obliged to or not, and I never said that you had asked for a free lift. But its your words that are stinging to the ears that you did mention: "as a friend, I never offered you a lift". To me, this means that I had somehow failed my duties as a friend to you. And it sounds like I had not been doing what I should do as a good friend, makes me seems like I am such a selfish person, and truely maybe I am, cause I really do stinge on petrol.
I apologised if what I said hurt you, what I said in the blog is not pin-pointed at you but to everyone. Tsk.
it never once come across my mind that you are a selfish friend. i understand the situations. and i apologise fer my casual remark that have hurt you in some ways, but that was never my intention. it was meant to be a tease and i didnt expect you to take it to heart. but whatever it is, i admit it was a pretty dumb thing to say.
i just hope fer this miscommunication to be cleared wholly.
Thank you. I forgotten what happen. Now something happen at home, grandmother pass away, suddenly.
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