From the book "The 5 Love Languages of Children"
Jasmine lend me this book and told me that it provided her great insights on communication with her two girls. It is indeed, an awesome book, everybody should read this.
After reading the first chapter - Physical Touch, I then realise why does Dylan demands his hugs and kisses every night without fail.
Physical touch, the most common way of showing your affection, is also the most basic way of showing your love to your child, it is an important part of children's emotional needs. Some children who lacks paternal affection would become angry and upset.
I felt very guilty instantly of failing to give Dylan more. His behaviour has got nothing wrong, I now can understand that over the years he grew up not having met his emotional needs thus creating his current angry behaviour. All he wants is just that attention from us, the quality time together with us, that physical touch from us, that to his understanding equates to love. Everybody needs that love, in one way or another, the feeling of being wanted, being accepted, being loved.
... to be continued after I finished reading the next chapter "Words of Affirmation"
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